Not that I’m well qualified to give pregnancy advice (who is really?), but I still wanted to share my first trimester experience with you guys now that I’m well into my 2nd.
Even if you’re not pregnant or never have been, I’m sure you’ve heard about the horrors of the first trimester. You will feel SO sick you can’t even get off the bathroom floor, you’re so tired your eyes won’t open, you’re disgusted by every food ever in the history of food, sore boobs, and the list goes on.
So, obviously, I was expecting some serious nausea…but it never came. I did feel some other things..but overall, I felt pretty darn good.
Which scared me.
I swear everyone else I talked to and everything I read online always pointed out the incredible nausea…but I wasn’t feeling any?
At one point I even read that women who feel nauseous carry healthier babies. What the hell? So was I not carrying a healthy baby?
My husband thought I was nuts for wanting to feel sick, but I just felt scared. It’s so easy (especially in the first trimester) to be scared all the time.
Anyway, I tried not to let it bother me since I wasn’t having any serious problem (i.e. blood or severe cramping…which btw, some blood is normal…isn’t that messed up??) We went to the doctor around 10 weeks to hear the heartbeat which I was SO looking forward to. I just wanted some reassurance that everything was indeed fine.
I jumped up on the table and she set up her equipment. She placed the heart rate monitor on my belly but all we heard was swooshing. I swear it felt like the longest moment of my life. It was probably only like, 2 minutes, but felt like forever. I knew right away we weren’t going to hear the heartbeat and it made me so sad.
The doctor assured us that sometimes you just don’t hear a heartbeat…but obviously it still stressed me out to the max. I think she saw some tears in my eyes because she ordered us an ultrasound that day. So, we headed over to the hospital and finally got our first ultrasound done.
To say it was amazing would be an understatement. There was a baby in there. We clearly saw arms and legs flailing around…a head…and yes, a sweet heartbeat. He or she was moving around like crazy…looking perfectly healthy! It was incredible. Honestly, it makes me tear up just writing this.
While I was sitting there on the table, I told the doctor how I wasn’t feeling nauseous and what did that mean..? I also told him about all the other things I had been reading online and he looked at me and said:
“what you’re describing is a perfectly healthy pregnancy. My advice to you is to stop reading those boards online. Most people that post things have bad or weird experiences so you have to keep in mind all the other women who have perfectly healthy pregnancy’s and don’t post a thing about them.”
That discussion with him was sort of a wake up call for me. He was right. I’ve never posted a thing online so if I haven’t, there have to be thousands of other women who also never do. Most pregnancy’s are healthy and all I can do is take care of my body the best I can.
So that’s basically my advice to you future mommy’s and daddy’s out there (especially first timers). Knowledge is power…but too much knowledge can drive you bat shit crazy. I guess this doesn’t just apply to pregnancy. I’m sure a number of you (I know I have) have diagnosed yourself with something crazy because of WebMD right?
Obviously, you’ve got to take care of yourself and your body. But take things you read online with a grain of salt and if you think something is wrong, go see your doctor!
After our ultrasound, I still check TheBump.com every week to read about what week I’m in in pregnancy but that’s it. I don’t check on every feeling I get, or cramp, or whatever, because a world of crazy pops up. Pregnancy can be stressful enough without the internet. It’s not easy, but just keep in mind every pregnancy is different. You might feel like crap…or you may not….both situations can result in healthy pregnancies and babies.
At our last doctor’s appointment (I was 14 weeks), she plopped the heart rate monitor down and we heard that heartbeat right away. So, yep, there’s a baby growing in there!
I just try to remind myself to do the best I can to take care of my body. Other than that, my body’s got it covered. It’s amazing what we’re capable of isn’t it?
Have you found the internet to be a powerful tool or has it stressed you out in the past?